Technology and Emotional Health in a Global Pandemic

Technology and Emotional Health in a Global Pandemic

advice, Growth
Emotional Health is more important than ever. But technology...it seems vital. Technology is a blessing right now...and a curse. We can see medically fragile friends and relatives without endangering them. We can send out "I love you's" to people who we are not free to see face to face. But we can also lose connection - even while we're trying to maintain contact. We can actually increase loneliness as we are jumping on call after call. Here are a few suggestions to maintain emotional health while using technology during the current crisis. Use Technology for Connection Connection and contact are not the same thing. Right now we need to avoid physical contact. But it's easy to use technology to "check in" on people without fostering connection. If we're not careful…
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God’s Love in Times of Need

God’s Love in Times of Need

Growth, Thoughts
Does God love me when I'm needy? Of course He does, right? The New Testament has pages filled with this idea. 1 Peter 5: 5-7 is a great example:   But let all of you clothe yourselves with humility towards one another. You see, ‘God resists the proud, but gives grace to the lowly.’ Humble yourselves, then, under God’s powerful hand, so that he may lift you up at the right time. Throw all your care upon him, because he cares about you. So, why don't I 'throw all my cares on him'? Because I don't always believe that God loves me in the midst of my neediness. I think that He loves me in the midst of my performance. And He does. I think that He loves me in…
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Hurt and Shame in James 4

Hurt and Shame in James 4

Growth
"Hurt People hurt people." You may have heard it before, but why is it true? Chip Dodd explains this in a modified view of the trauma triangle:   The trauma triangle is an observable reality in most human experience. It's easy to remember in the form of a short story. A victim of trauma denies their own needs and ends up coping by harming another person. This creates a new victim.   Let's add characters:   Joe is a victim. He grew up being shamed by his mother. He has grown to believe that "being needy" is bad. His needs inconvenience people (namely his mother). He lives life bottling up his needs. He never expresses them to people — yet hopes that they will sense, know, and respond to his…
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All This Talk About Shame

All This Talk About Shame

Growth
But what is shame? It's has gotten a good deal of press lately. But there's a problem. We don't know what it is. Well, to be more precise, we don't know how to be ... well, precise. The main problem is our language. I don't mean the language we use about shame. I literally mean the English language! You see, shame is more than one thing. For starters, it's is a feeling. My kids call it "feeling embarrassed." And that makes sense. We often experience shame when we're embarrassed about something we said or did. This is especially true when we ask ourselves, "So, is there something wrong with me?" That question often evokes other feelings. We don't like coming face to face with our limitations and weaknesses. So, we…
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Feelings and Intuitive Thinkers

Feelings and Intuitive Thinkers

Growth, Thoughts
As an intuitive thinker, when was the last time you sat down and asked yourself, "What am I feeling right now?" Maybe you do this all the time. But I'm guessing, as a fellow intuitive thinker, that your feelings are not exactly on the tip of your consciousness—though they definitely live way down deep inside of you. In short, do feelings and intuitive thinkers go hand in hand? Until recently, that was never for me. I was emotionally unreflective. Which is ironic, because I'm a reflective person. I'm a reflective learner. I'm an intuitive thinking introvert, for crying out loud! But, alas, unreflective emotionally. In effect, I was growing mentally—you know, acquiring knowledge in the quest to slay all intellectual dragons and obstacles. But I was not growing emotionally. But,…
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