Feelings and Emotions in the Context of Shame

Feelings and Emotions in the Context of Shame

Thoughts
Feelings and Emotions and Moods, Oh My!   Is there a difference, or can we use whichever word we want?   Well, of course you can do what you like, but there are differences between these words.   The Effect of Affect   It all begins with affect. Nope, not effect...affect. Now, you may have some bad grammar experiences being called to mind right now. There's a place for that, but I'm not talking about the difference between effect and affect. I'm talking about a biological response to a situation that results in an emotional state. An affect, according to Donald Nathanson, is the biological side of a feeling. It's a feeling before you realize that it's a feeling.   Feelings...Nothing More Than Feelings   When you become aware of…
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All This Talk About Shame

All This Talk About Shame

Growth
But what is shame? It's has gotten a good deal of press lately. But there's a problem. We don't know what it is. Well, to be more precise, we don't know how to be ... well, precise. The main problem is our language. I don't mean the language we use about shame. I literally mean the English language! You see, shame is more than one thing. For starters, it's is a feeling. My kids call it "feeling embarrassed." And that makes sense. We often experience shame when we're embarrassed about something we said or did. This is especially true when we ask ourselves, "So, is there something wrong with me?" That question often evokes other feelings. We don't like coming face to face with our limitations and weaknesses. So, we…
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